Det er dejligt vejr her i august.
Jeg håber inderligt på at jeg får det her kundeservicejob jeg har søgt. Det er hjemmearbejde, lige det jeg søger for tiden.
Jeg håber at det her år bliver godt. Har været virkelig stresset og deprimeret og håber snart mit liv kommer på plads 🤞🏽har brug for ro på i mit liv ✌🏽
Lavede sødkartoffel med kødboller, tzatziki og koriander til frokost og skal jeg også have til aftensmad med en halv squash..
1. Never shine brighter than the person who holds the key to your future. It is your job to make him look better, not to turn the spotlight on yourself. If you are too good at your job, that may be a threat to your master.
2. Friends are for private time, not for getting or using power. If you make use of friends, they may turn against you, resenting the inference that they have been granted a favor, rather than having risen of their own merit. If you use enemies to your advantage, they are more likely to remain loyal. You can also use enemies against each other. It can be helpful to have friends around if you need a scapegoat and are prepared to sacrifice the friend.
3. Never give away what you really want. That knowledge is an advantage to the person who holds it, just as knowing what your opponent wants is an advantage for you. Adopting a position contrary to that expected of you is an effective means of deception, and likely to achieve traction.
4. Keeping your own counsel is a valuable trait. People naturally want to fill silence with words. You will seem to be more powerful and mysterious if you say less, and people may share information you would not otherwise be privy to.
5. Be careful to develop a reputation for honesty, even without truly being honest. A reputation becomes self-reinforcing. Do not become defensive if someone threatens your reputation, and do not hesitate to impugn the reputation of your rivals. But make sure that you do not use accusations which can be easily disproved or traced back to you as the source.
6. Always get attention, even if it is negative. While you want to protect your reputation, the aura of scandal can draw publicity and put you in the limelight. This will at least ensure that people are aware of you. Another way to get attention is by appearing to be unusual or exotic.
7. Get others to do your work for you, and take credit whenever possible.
8. If you can force your opponent to come to you, rather than going to him, you will maintain the upper hand.
9. Use actions or symbols instead of words to make your point. People are rarely persuaded by arguments, they are more often persuaded by what they can see.
10. Avoid people who are down on their luck. They are like people with a contagious illness, they will spread it to those around them. It is useless to try and help them, and you risk being dragged down with them. You are better off associating with other successful people.
11. Make yourself indispensable and you will have the freedom to fulfill your ambitions. If you are essential to the successful operation of your organization, or if your superior cannot function without you, you succeed in cementing your place of power.
12. Surprise people with an occasional truth or an unexpected gift. If you have a reputation for parsimony, a generous act will confuse your opponent and leave them wondering what you are up to. Similarly, if you have been honest with them, you will be able to deceive with impunity.
13. Do not appeal to your target’s mercy. Just as you would show no mercy to your opponent, do not ask for any. Your adversary has no concern for what is in your best interest, and you must craft a request that offers something for them. They are interested in what is in it for them, not you.
14. In order to gain the upper hand, you need information. If you have common acquaintances, you can get the information you need about your victim from those third parties. Otherwise, you will need to act as a spy on your own, in social or casual circumstances. Be careful not to give away information of your own. Also be wary of potential disinformation, deliberately planted.
15. Never stop short of total destruction of your enemy. When you have the upper hand, continue the attack until they have been annihilated. If you do not, they will recover and return to seek revenge.
16. Use your presence and absence strategically to maintain interest. Don’t let people get tired of seeing you, let them wonder where you are instead.
17. Be unpredictable to keep your opponent off-balance. If they cannot guess what you are going to do next, they will be constantly wary. This is exhausting, and gives you the advantage. People learn to expect you to behave in a certain way. When you deviate from that pattern, it is unsettling and frightening.
18. Do not get trapped in a fortress. Keep your options open and always have an escape route. By hiding in a secure area, you cut yourself off from supporters, information, and information.
19. Be careful of who you are dealing with, and do not offend the wrong person. The most dangerous opponents are the prideful, the insecure, the suspicious, the snake, and the fool. Be careful in how you approach each of them.
20. Don’t take sides. Let all sides vie for your approval, but do not give it. You can make it seem as if you are favoring one over the other, but never make a real commitment, unless you absolutely sure that is the winning side.
21. Act as if your target has the advantage over you. People want to believe they are smarter or more clever than others. Let them believe you are a fool, and you will have a hidden advantage.
22. Surrender before you are defeated. Don’t squander your remaining energy in pursuit of a losing battle. If you are in a weak position, walk away and recoup your losses, then come back to seek revenge when you are stronger.
23. Focus on one thing at a time, or one master at a time. Do not try to please more than one superior, or you risk pleasing none. But always try to have a back-up plan.
24. How to climb the ladder: rules for success
25. Create the identity you want to have. You can emphasize the aspects of yourself that you want to, or even recreate a whole new persona for yourself.
26. Keep your hands clean. Always have a scapegoat ready to blame, or use someone else to do your dirty work.
27. People follow charismatic leaders; create a cult following for yourself. Be vague about the expectations, use the structure of existing religions but with exciting visual and sensory stimulation, and promise a fulfilling future.
28. Go big. Big lies, big moves show boldness and determination. Never start out timidly. If you hesitate you are doomed to failure.
29. Know what your goal is, and when you are going to walk away. Know when to stop.
30. Make the hard work look easy. Never show how much effort you have put into your accomplishments.
31. To push your target toward the choice that you want them to make without letting them know they are being manipulated, you must carefully employ a strategy so they believe the choice is theirs.
32. Give them a dream. Let them believe in a fantasy—get rich quick, harmony and good will, immortality—and they will follow you.
33. Find their weakness and use it against them. Your target may have a guilty secret or a secret yearning. Either way, if you can find out what it is, you can use it as leverage to compel them to do your bidding.
34. Act like royalty. If you act like you are entitled to the finer things, others will treat you the same way.
35. Timing is often the key to success. Pay attention to timing for the initiation of a campaign, use timing to knock your opponent off balance, and take the time to finish the victory completely.
36. Never show any interest in something you cannot have. It is best to feign indifference or disdain for something that is out of reach.
37. Dazzle your audience with special effects. Use lights, sounds and other effects to create the illusion you desire.
38. Don’t share your unconventional views, if you have them. When seeking power and authority, it is best to limit the discussion of unpopular or unusual viewpoints. People do not trust the unfamiliar and will balk at supporting someone who is too different. Keep your differences quiet.
39. Control your emotions, but trigger theirs. While it is critical to keep firm rein of your emotions and facial expressions, it is an advantage if you can prod your target into losing control of his.
40. Don’t put too much emphasis on money. People who spend too much energy chasing a bargain, or looking for something for nothing, lose sight of real values.
41. It is difficult to follow in the footsteps of a great leader. If you are trying to replace someone very successful, you must find a way to differentiate yourself, without denigrating that revered predecessor.
42. Eliminate the leader of the group, and the group will soon fall apart.
43. If your followers love you, they will support you through difficult times. It is easier to lead your constituents down a windy or treacherous path if they believe that you care about them.
44. Use mirror image illusions to confuse your enemy and obfuscate your intended actions.
45. Move slowly. People fear rapid change, and need time to adjust to a new environment.
46. Showing your own imperfections, or false imperfections, makes you appear vulnerable and therefore your opponents may let their guard down. If you admit to a vice or flaw, you will seem more approachable and human than if you try to look perfect.
47. Stop fighting when you reach your goal. Don’t get caught up in your victory and keep forging ahead. Once you have achieved your objective, take the time to assess, regroup and focus before you continue.
48. Be adaptable. Always be able to change direction seamlessly and adapt to a changing landscape.
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This year has been sooo busy for me, like crazy busy..
I am thinking so much about the future, my work and how I want to make a living from my home.
I HATE going outsite and meet people, I only meet weird people and I wanna be happy. People makes me annoyed and mad. They say and ask so many things they never want to be asked themself.. or never want to be told in that way themself.. suxh a strange world.
So I have been thinking about making a living from home, I just need to start doing it.. the only “problem” and my concern is takses and whatever I don’t have a clue about.. I need to know more, I just don’t know how to find out.
I did start something … but it didn’t work for me… wotg valentus.. but it was such scam thing and it didn’t made me earn a dime.
I want to build a real business, and something really really nice.. I know I can but it will take time for people to know about it and I really just want this know haha but that’s not how life is sadly.. but I will work for it.. it is my dream.
It is my goal ♡
So … It has been 3 very hectic months. I finally got my first real job, a night shift job and all I have been doing is just, eat, sleep and work, not much time for any social media or seeing family or friends.. Not much fun and also working on weekends but finally I just thought that my life was getting better and brighter because I thought, “now I can finally save some money for alot of things that I hve been needing for suuuch a long time but it costs alot… And I was promist to go on the day team so I was save..
But today… I got fired … Just like that. And I only have one week left… And I really do so much for this job, and so many people I already got to know… I am dissapointed but not so much was good about this job other than a little extra money and a couple of good friends.. In a way I feel like they just give me a chance to find a better job because, when one door closes, another one opens. 🙂
1. Not living in the moment. Always wishing you were somewhere else, doing something different with other people.
2. Blaming your problems on your past. Although the past affects us, it need not define us. We can choose, decide and act – and take control of our lives. Don’t let your past heartache and pain affect who you become.
3. Running away from problems. It’s pointless to bury your head in the sand and pretend that things are fine when you’re dealing with a problem. Face reality, take action and work to turn things around.
4. Being ungrateful. Being thankful sets you free in your heart and mind. It inspires all that’s good and, also, oils relationships. But an ungrateful person will wear others down. It destroys your spirit, and it saps your energy.
5. Being angry and bitter. Refusing to forgive and bearing grudges against others will slowly poison our personality. It’s much better to release them and to focus, instead, on living a happy and fulfilling life.
6. Letting your expectations rule your life. Life rarely goes smoothly and according to plan – and people disappoint us and let us down. Accepting this is normal takes some tension out of life.
7. Disrespecting yourself and others. Every single person deserves respect, and every single person is fighting their own battle. So focus on being kind, understanding and forgiving.
8. Neglecting important relationship. A relationship that’s built on unconditional love – where a person accepts us for who and what we are – is truly a gift and is worth fighting for. Don’t take it for granted – recognize that it’s a gift.
9. Loving people who are bad for us. Not every person will build into your life. Be aware of those who’ll use you, or who want to bring you down, or who want to hurt you, or destroy your confidence.
10. Never taking risks. If you always play it safe, you’ll find you end up going nowhere. You must be ready and willing to take risks. If you don’t, you may regret it as you’ll miss so much in life.
1. Realize you have a choice.
People-pleasers often feel like they have to say yes when someone asks for their help. Remember that you always have a choice to say no.
2. Set your priorities.
Knowing your priorities and values helps you put the brakes on people-pleasing. You know when you feel comfortable saying no or saying yes. Ask yourself, “What are the most important things to me?”.
3. Stall.
Whenever someone asks you for a favor, it’s perfectly OK to say that you’ll need to think about it. This gives you the opportunity to consider if you can commit to helping them. (Also important is to ask the person for details about the commitment.)
Ask yourself: “How stressful is this going to be? Do I have the time to do this? What am I going to give up? How pressured am I going to feel? Am I going to be upset with this person who’s asking?”
Asking yourself these questions is key because, very often after you’ve said yes or helped out, you’re left wondering, “What was I thinking?” I neither have the time nor the expertise to help out.
If the person needs an answer right away, “your automatic answer can be no,” That’s because “Once you say yes, you’re stuck.” By saying no automatically, “you leave yourself an option” to say yes later if you’ve realized that you’re available. And “you’ve also gotten it off your must-do or don’t-want to do list.”
4. Set a time limit.
If you do agree to help out, “limit your time frame,”. Let the person know that “I’m only available from 10 a.m. to 12 p.m.,” for example.
5. Consider if you’re being manipulated.
Sometimes, people are clearly taking advantage of you, so it’s important to watch out for manipulators and flatterers. How do you spot them? She said, “Often the people who flatter you will say, ‘Oh you’re so good at baking cakes, would you make a cake for my child’s birthday?’ or ‘I don’t know how to put this bookcase together, but you’re so handy, can you help me out?’”
A classic line is “Nobody does this better than you do,”. Also, these people “will either coax you into doing something or try to tell you what your availability is or what your time frame is.” Basically, before you know it, they make the decision for you.
6. Create a mantra.
Figure out a mantra you can say to yourself to stop you from people-pleasing. It can even be a visual as simple as a big “No” flashing when a certain friend who “can always talk you into something” approaches you.
7. Say no with conviction.
“The first no to anyone is always the hardest,”. But once you get over that first bump, “you will be well on your way to getting off the yes treadmill.” Also, remember that you’re saying no for good reasons. “You get time for yourself and for the people you really want to help,”.
8. Use an empathic assertion.
Some people initially think that being assertive means “stepping all over people,” Tillman said. Instead, she explained that “assertiveness is really about connection.”
Using an empathic assertion “means that you put yourself in the other person’s shoes as you assert yourself,”. So you let the person know that you understand where they’re coming from, but unfortunately, you can’t help. “People need to feel heard and understood,” and this is a respectful way of asserting yourself and saying no.
9. Consider if it’s worth it.
When asserting yourself, ask yourself, “Is it really worth it?” It’s probably not worth it to tell your boss about his annoying habit, but it is worth it to tell your friend that you can’t do lunch because you’re super busy.
10. Don’t give a litany of excuses.
It’s tempting to want to defend your decision to say no to someone so they understand your reasoning. But this actually backfires. “As soon as you start explaining, you give the other person lots of wiggle room to come back and say, ‘Oh, you can do that later,’ ‘You can adjust your schedule’ or ‘That’s not as important as what I’m asking.’”
11. Start small.
“Everything we learn how to do we learn through a process,” so take baby steps. Instead of barging into your boss’s office to ask for a raise, talk with your immediate supervisor first about how to prepare yourself for the talk.
12. Practice successive approximation.
Successive approximation means taking “one step in the direction you want to go” and rewarding yourself for getting that far. If your neighbor’s dog’s barking is driving you crazy, make efforts to confront the person by first saying “Good morning,” as you’re both leaving the house. Another time, you might mention how noisy the neighborhood has been. If he doesn’t get the hint, you can knock on his door and use an empathic assertion.
It can help to write down “how you get from A to Z,” This also helps you gain the courage to confront the person.
13. Don’t apologize — if it’s not your fault.
People-pleasers tend to be serial apologists. Pay attention to when you’re apologizing and consider if you’re really at fault. Ask yourself if you’re responsible for the situation. Usually, the answer is no.
14. Remember that saying no has its benefits.
“You as a person are entitled to your time and you need to rest and rejuvenate to be there for the people you want to help out.” Look at saying no as an opportunity to spend your time doing what you value in your life.
15. Set clear boundaries — and follow through.
“We all have physical or emotional limits,” And because of these limits, we have to set boundaries. Ask yourself what you’re willing to do, and don’t go beyond these limits. Also, be clear in communicating your boundaries. Say what you’re thinking and what you want.
Letting someone step over your boundaries without voicing your frustrations can lead you to “bottle up this negative feeling about a person…to the point when you have a blowup and really hurt someone’s feelings or end the relationship” completely,”.
For instance, you might “have a friend who’s just so emotionally needy and negative that she calls you all the time with her problems and wants you to listen,” But “even just listening is asking a favor…[and] every time you hang out, you’re miserable and she feels better.” Respect your boundaries, and at some point, say to her, “I can’t help you,”
There also are subtle ways to respect your boundaries. You might “start taking every other call and wean yourself off of her.” You can do the same thing with a person who calls you at your busiest time of day. You might say, “I can’t be available for you at 2:30 because I’m at the office; let’s set up a particular time to talk,”. When setting up the time, offer one that works best for you.
Setting physical boundaries might mean telling a person that they can’t just pop over when they want to or borrow your things without asking.
16. Don’t be scared of the fallout.
People-pleasers often worry that after they say no, the fallout will be catastrophic. But, “the fallout is never as bad as we think it is.” In fact, “it’s usually very insignificant.” Why? For starters, “people are not thinking about you as much as you think.” Usually, after you say no, a person is more focused on who they’ll be asking next to help them than your so-called betrayal.
Even a significant request such as being the maid of honor at your friend’s wedding isn’t disastrous. Being the maid of honor “takes a lot of time, energy and money,” which you may not have. You say that “I’m really honored and this means so much to me, but I won’t be able to do it,” “isn’t going to ruin the wedding,”. “If you have a solid friendship, this isn’t going to end it.”
17. Consider who you want to have your time.
Ask yourself, “Who do I really want to help?”, “Do you want to be there for your parents or some friend from college who lived down the hall who you partied with a lot who’s back in your life and really demanding?”
18. Self-soothe.
Using positive self-talk is “like being a good mother to yourself,”. You can use this to remind yourself of your priorities and boundaries. For instance, you might say “I can do this,” “I have the right to park in this parking spot,” “I made the decision that’s right for me” or “My values are more important than saying yes in this situation.”
19. Recognize when you’ve been successful.
Many people-pleasers tend to focus on what went wrong. Counteract this tendency by keeping a journal with the times you handled a situation well, such as when you were assertive or didn’t apologize. In fact, you might be surprised at “how many more times you’re responding confidently,”.
20. Keep a confidence file.
Since a lack of confidence can cause your people-pleasing ways, keep a file with positive and praising emails, cards or anything else. (For instance, Psych Central associate editor Therese Borchard keeps a self-esteem file.) It can even come in handy when asking for that raise. Print out any emails or letters of praise you’ve reeived from co-workers or higher-ups and taking them to your boss as another reason why you deserve a raise.
21. Realize that you can’t be everything to everyone.
Again, people-pleasers want to make everyone happy. While you might make someone happy temporarily, it doesn’t work long term. And you can get hurt in the process. “People who preserve their time and energy and don’t say yes to everyone also realize that they can’t make other people happy,”. People-pleasers must realize that the only thoughts and feelings they can change are their own.
What to use:
• 400g spinach (I used frozen)
• 150g flour
• 2 eggs
Mix everything together and make it like buns with a spoon.
Bake it with 200° on hot air for 20 min.
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